Quick Moves to Help Jump-start Your Sex Life

By CHAN LEE PENG, 23rd May 2010 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL http://nut.bz/1vu.1xjx/
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Sexual intercourse is beneficial in reducing stress, curing headaches, slowing ageing, and alleviating pain, soothing menstrual cramps, boosting the immune system, regulating hormones, improving circulation and relieving insomnia. Sex is vital to a good relationship, expresses loves between couples, and improves one’s overall health. Here are some quick ways to help you jump-start your healthier sexual life.

Set an Earlier Alarm
Refocus Your Mind
Make Space for a Healthy Sex
Sex Needs to be Balanced
Don’t Blame Each Other for Low Desire
Realize You Must Give and Take
Communicate Well
Passion, not Depression

Set an Earlier Alarm

In order to improve your sexual life, set the alarm a bit earlier than usual in order to change the routine. Leaving sex as the last thing to do at the end of a hectic day may make it seem like a chore, or less enjoyable as the day has already worn the participants out. Scheduling lovemaking as the first thing to do in the morning creates a wonderful way to bond before the day starts and allows for the couple to participate refreshed and renewed from a good night’s rest. When you first wake up, testosterone levels are at the highest but decrease as the day progress. So, grab the time, don’t delay and do it right away!

Refocus Your Mind

Try refocusing your mind when the urge strikes. Don’t bring the kitchen chores, bills, your to-do list, children, or any other issue to the bed. Focus your mind on your partner and yourself, when the urge comes, just do it.

Make Space for a Healthy Sex

Clear your mind of any unnecessary worries and bring back those early days of lust. Make space to jump-start your sexual life. Don’t worry much about your working schedule or family chores, as this is your time. It does not pay to divide your attention from the one you love. Turn off your phone, and get your priorities right by concentrating on both your lover and you.

Sex Needs to be Balanced

If you’re stewing over household chores because your husband hasn’t helped to lessen your burden, you won’t feel love towards him. Cast this negative thought out- yes- throw it out! Love, like an ecosystem, needs to be balanced between two loving couples. Both of you should be committed to a rewarding relationship.

Don’t Blame Each Other for Low Desire

No more blaming as this will ruin your relationship either with your husband or wife. From now on, stop blaming each other on the cause of low sexual desire. Making love needs both of you to commit your time. Select a day that suits both of your schedules and commit the time to one another.

Realize You Must Give and Take

You should always realize that your partner’s body doesn’t always send you into a frenzy of higher pleasure and this shouldn’t be used as a yardstick of whether the relationship is good. It takes honest but kind communication to resolve sexual differences.

Communicate Well

Don’t mix sex and low self-esteem and realize that there’s probably nothing wrong with the relationship and lower self-esteem. Try to encourage each other and with better communication you will find your sex life more fulfilling. You also can help by defining your sexual requirements, sharing your findings and try fulfilling them with your partner.

Passion, not Depression

Lack of a healthier sexual life can lead one to experience emptiness, despair, helplessness and loneliness. When you always say, “Not now, dear, I’ve an appointment”, you’ll make your partner feel like half a person. They may feel as if they are no longer desirable or loved.

Sexual life needs a commitment from both parties, because it’s not one of life’s changes. It’s supposed to bring you pleasure and one of the parts either party can do to help strengthen a relationship. So turn down any unnecessary appointments, and turn off the TV or computer and turn on each other!

Meet the author

CHAN LEE PENG
I've loved to write and read since I was small.

Writing is my favorite pastime. My writings focus mainly on health, pet, science, animal and etc.

I am also a freelance writer at Triond, Bukisa, and Factoidz.